Iggy Pop, the rat nucleus accumbens, and your excellent sex life
You guys, chapter 3 is my nemesis. Chapter 3 is about the role of context in sexual desire and arousal, and it requires an awful lot of stuff about stress, attachment, and the mesolimbic cortex. I’m...
View Articledoes this metaphor for nonconcordance make any sense?
Okay, so I’m blasting into Chapter 5 now, which is the arousal chapter. I’ll be focusing largely on arousal nonconcordance. I’m using the garden metaphor throughout the book, and I’m playing around...
View Articlea better metaphor for nonconcordance!
Check it out: We can think about genital response and subjective arousal in terms of two separate but interrelated systems – the peripheral system (the genitals) and the central system (the brain)....
View Articleif you were a woman who loved sex…
In the Desire chapter, I discuss the importance of IDENTITY in creating a context that facilitates sexual desire. The research tells us that when a behavior change is not just something you DO but...
View Article50-50 sex
Well I mean OF COURSE I’ll write a post about the NYT Sunday cover story about how straight couples with more gender equity have less satisfying sex lives. I’m going to skip over the things I think the...
View Articlelearn about science, have a better sex life?
A tremendously exciting paper is being published in June’s Behaviour Research and Therapy journal. One of the authors tweeted it, I read it, and I was so excited that I had to tell y’all about it right...
View Articleone night, seven years ago, I made a difference
On Thursday, I attended a day-long meeting with about 30 fellow college health educators from all around New England, and at the end of it one of the new educators came up to me and say, “Hey, do you...
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An awesome question: My partner turns me on, but not in a way that leads to...
Here’s an awesome question: I feel like the kind of arousal I get from my partner is somehow a different kind of arousal from the kind that actually leads me to have an orgasm.Here’s what I’ve...
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An awesome question: how does a fetish develop?
Here’s an awesome question: how does a fetish develop? how does one acquire one? is it innate? or nurtured? No one is born with a fetish. In fact, almost nothing is “innately” sexually relevant –...
View Articlearousal nonconcordance, in two minutes
Have you tried to explain arousal nonconcordance to your partner, a friend, or a stranger in a coffee shop? ME TOO. Have you wished there were just, like, a 2 minute video you could send them that...
View Articlecalling all sex positive folks! #tweetyourlube
In her article at Salon, Rachel Kramer Bussel saved us all the trouble of comprehensively rebutting UFC Women’s Bantamweight Champion Ronda Rousey’s terrible advice to Maxim readers that using lube is...
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